We love our mothers and are full of gratitude towards them. Mother’s Day is a good American tradition and a time to honor and recognize everything mothers in Sikh families do to raise us as good Sikhs.
But one thing this day should not be turned into is a shameless orgy of generalized female worship and feeding out-of-control female narcissism. The West is a female-centered, female-worshiping culture and the Sikh community has bought into that cultural milieu lock, stock and barrel.
As Mother’s Day approaches and the generalized female-worshiping builds up to a crescendo, it is disappointing to Sikh sites participating in the narcissism. Some excerpts:
A Day in The Life of a Mom
Get up. Get yourself up because if you roll over it will be far more painful to get up later and you won’t have gotten a work-out in. Get up. Whatever you do, remember the passport forms today.
Drive. Push it push it, spin, spin, spin. Do you want to waste away in your seventies? Look flabby in that “hot” one-piecer you just picked up? Then push it.
“Sorry, no yogurt today.”
“I know you eat yogurt each and every day, but there’s none today, and there’s no toast either. There are some perfectly good Cheerios. Yes I am a failure as a mother, thank you very much.”
Laundry, laundry, there’s always laundry.
Old. So old. Lines, wrinkles, folds. Botox? Gym. I need new clothes. I shouldn’t care.
Wine, wine, thank the Good Lord for wine.
Read the whole thing. Life is so tough for today’s mothers. Especially the laundry.
The article is a crosspost from a website called the Purple Fig. You have got to see this website to begin to understand how hard a life women in our western societies have today. Why should Sikh women be left out of this sisterhood of unbridled narcissism and daily martyrdom?
Cultural diet like the article quoted above is the nonsense that’s being imported and fed to our community.
If you disagree with ‘nonsense,’ think about the role-model women in Sikh history.
The ones who spent time in Mughal jails and milled big sackfuls of wheat every day. Savaa savaa mann de peesnay peesay.
[ Image from sikh-history.com ]
The ones who wore the chopped up bodies of their babies and toddlers around their necks because they had unstinting faith in the Guru.
The ones who had equal rights in the Guru’s Way and didn’t venture out on a half-a-millenium-ago version of today’s slutwalks.
Instead of falling prey to the alluring narcissism packaged as feminism, the comforable and privileged lives of Sikh women today should be centered on the Guru’s teachings.
Sisters, you do not have it tough. In terms of day to day survival, your lives are today are ridiculously easy compared to the lives of Sikh women of decades and centuries past. Just the single chore of doing the family’s laundry without electric appliances and tap water would exhaust you more than your entire day’s work today.
Let us remember: dukh daaroo sukh rog bhaiaa. And this daaroo is not the same as the wine mentioned in that article.
Comedian Bill Burr puts it much better: