Inoculation for Mother’s Day

We love our mothers and are full of gratitude towards them. Mother’s Day is a good American tradition and a time to honor and recognize everything mothers in Sikh families do to raise us as good Sikhs.

But one thing this day should not be turned into is a shameless orgy of generalized female worship and feeding out-of-control female narcissism. The West is a female-centered, female-worshiping culture and the Sikh community has bought into that cultural milieu lock, stock and barrel.

As Mother’s Day approaches and the generalized female-worshiping builds up to a crescendo, it is disappointing to Sikh sites participating in the narcissism. Some excerpts:

A Day in The Life of a Mom

Get up. Get yourself up because if you roll over it will be far more painful to get up later and you won’t have gotten a work-out in. Get up. Whatever you do, remember the passport forms today.

Drive. Push it push it, spin, spin, spin. Do you want to waste away in your seventies? Look flabby in that “hot” one-piecer you just picked up? Then push it.

“Sorry, no yogurt today.”

“I know you eat yogurt each and every day, but there’s none today, and there’s no toast either. There are some perfectly good Cheerios. Yes I am a failure as a mother, thank you very much.”

Laundry, laundry, there’s always laundry.

Old. So old. Lines, wrinkles, folds. Botox? Gym. I need new clothes. I shouldn’t care.

Wine, wine, thank the Good Lord for wine.

Read the whole thing. Life is so tough for today’s mothers. Especially the laundry.

The article is a crosspost from a website called the Purple Fig. You have got to see this website to begin to understand how hard a life women in our western societies have today. Why should Sikh women be left out of this sisterhood of unbridled narcissism and daily martyrdom?

Cultural diet like the article quoted above is the nonsense that’s being imported and fed to our community.

If you disagree with ‘nonsense,’ think about the role-model women in Sikh history.

The ones who spent time in Mughal jails and milled big sackfuls of wheat every day. Savaa savaa mann de peesnay peesay.

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The ones who wore the chopped up bodies of their babies and toddlers around their necks because they had unstinting faith in the Guru.

The ones who had equal rights in the Guru’s Way and didn’t venture out on a half-a-millenium-ago version of today’s slutwalks.

Instead of falling prey to the alluring narcissism packaged as feminism, the comforable and privileged lives of Sikh women today should be centered on the Guru’s teachings.

Sisters, you do not have it tough. In terms of day to day survival, your lives are today are ridiculously easy compared to the lives of Sikh women of decades and centuries past. Just the single chore of doing the family’s laundry without electric appliances and tap water would exhaust you more than your entire day’s work today.

Let us remember: dukh daaroo sukh rog bhaiaa. And this daaroo is not the same as the wine mentioned in that article.

Comedian Bill Burr puts it much better:



  1. Ameioa · · Reply

    Read a more condensed version of what you wrote, and tell me how compelling it is:

    Mothers work hard, and appreciating them during Mother’s Day is a good thing.

    We should not feed narcissism of mothers or females.

    When women complain about the difficulties of motherhood, we shouldn’t listen and in fact should discourage it, because our female ancestors bore more physical labor, violence, and trauma, than women do now.

    Women had equal rights then.

    Women’s lives now are much easier.

  2. Ameioa,

    A couple of corrections to your succinct summary:

    1. Sikh women have had equal rights.
    2. A lot of anti-Sikhi cultural junk food is being fed to Sikhs, often unwittingly, by Sikhs themselves.

    As for compelling, the verdict is subjective and depends on a few factors: one’s knowledge of Sikh history, ability to judge reality without solipsistic lenses, ability to empathize, real-life experience and understanding of the feminist matrix that is the water of the ocean to us fish.

    A note on #1: Women in the families of Sikhs have had equal rights, to the extent that Sikhs have practiced the teachings of the Gurus. The definition of equality is the key to understanding this practical manifestation of equal rights. For example, Sikh women didn’t demand to be in combat against Mughals (some did out of necessity). They made equal contributions in strengthening the Panth with their own feminine talents and didn’t compete with men on item-by-item basis driven by misplaced notions of “gender gap” in selected, convenient fields of labor (actually, power).

    Feminism is the opposite of the way Sikh women in history have realized equality. Feminism is all about competing with and emasculating men for advantage (benefits without sacrifice and unbridled female manmatt), and one of the key tenets of feminism is the destruction of the family-based organisation of society. It is diametrically opposed to the notion of family in Sikhi.

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